I believe some of my animals returned to my family years after they passed away. Obviously, I can’t prove an animal has returned. But other people I’ve met feel the same way. If you’ve read the bestselling book, A Dog’s Purpose – or seen the movie – it tells the story about a dog who returns to earth to learn about his purpose.
Animals who have passed on can return??
The possibility didn’t occur to me until my daughter adopted two cats, Mac and Bunnie. Every time I saw Mac, I had a strong urge to call him Tom. I’d also see my grandmother’s photo of me as a two-year old. In the photo, I’m squatting next to her cat. My arm’s around him as we both peer into a stream bed.
The cat’s name was Tom. This is odd, I thought. Why is Tom’s name and the photo coming up?
But I have learned not to ignore “odd.” Instead, I paid attention and concluded that Mac had once been Tom. They were both affectionate and outgoing cats.
Soul families
I had already bought into the idea that we have soul families. These are people that we hang out with before, during and after our life/lives (your choice) on earth. Once I discovered the Tom/Mac connection, I added our beloved animals into my definition of soul family. It’s great to know that my animals are connected to me beyond death. The grief remains, but knowing we’ll reconnect comforts me.
Do they return right away?
Some people hope to see their pet return within days or weeks of their death. I’m sure that hope stems from a desire to ease their grief. But, in my experience, most animals don’t return right away. They enjoy spending time in the spirit realm before coming back.
How do we find each other?
Our spirits connect somewhere outside of logic and reason. Circumstances conspire to bring us together or we just know they’re the one. Look for a little spark within yourself that says, “Yup, you’re coming home with me.”
Sometimes animals reach out to us and we immediately feel the connection. That’s how my husband Charlie brought home our cat, Shadow. He was checking out the adoptable cats at the pet store when she grabbed his finger and stared intently at him. He felt her say that she wanted to go home with him. He chuckles when he shares, “I went to the pet store to get cat food and came home with a cat!”
Sometimes you see them or even their picture and you know. We were looking for another dog after our husky, Mitsubishi died. I resisted the pictures of adorable dogs Charlie sent me. Truth was, I just couldn’t move past my grief. But then I saw Tibor’s picture and knew instantly that he was “the one.” He was a wonderful addition to the family, even accommodating our cats.
Ways to notice if we knew them before
Hints might include
- Similar names (Pee Wee in a last life; Peanut in this life)
- They might look similar. Even if they’re not the same breed or coloring, maybe their build reminds you of a previous animal.
- Something about their energy or personality is familiar. For instance, they might exhibit peculiar, specific behaviors that were part of your previous animal’s “repertoire”.
- You found them the same way as a previous animal. (In one story I heard, both pets were found abandoned in the exact same spot by the side of the highway.)
“If you were in my family before,”
A fun game you can play is, “If you were in my family before, who would you have been?” My husband, Charlie will have to answer that question about our cat, Shadow. His mom did have cats when they were growing up.
Does believing our pets return matter?
Well, believing our previous pets can return to us in this lifetime sure makes life more interesting! But as long as we love them and give them the best life possible, that’s what really matters.
And in my case, I was able to make amends to my dog, Pee Wee when she returned as my son’s dog, Peanut the Pit Bull. You can read about Pee Wee in my blog, Not the perfect animal guardian? Me neither!!
This time around with Peanut, I made sure to treat her well, which is the best I could do to make amends. Read my blog about Peanut here.
Check out my bestseller, Peace in Passing: Comfort for Loving Humans During Animal Transitions.