Thank you, Theresa from H.E.A.L. for recommending the book, Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill. It’s a witty, sometimes funny and pointed book about how we get lulled into drifting along in life rather than pursuing our life plan. Before you get scared off, this isn’t a book review.
Intuitive consultant Bob Hickman says that before we were born, we talked with -- God/Source (somebody pretty insightful) -- and we decided, “here’s what I want to accomplish or learn in this life.” That’s our life plan. We agreed to experience certain challenges during our life -- the ultimate reality show, you know?
Just to make it Very Real, we forget that we agreed to these challenges.
Healing = meeting our challenges head on
From this point of view, I see healing as meeting those challenges head on and learning from them. Personally, I think the lesson is learned (the challenge is mastered) when we feel more peace -- a feeling of lightness, maybe a lack of obsessive thinking about the issue.
When you think of your past challenges, do you experience anger, disappointment, a sense of failure, for example? Then those particular challenges aren’t quite finished yet. I’ve got a few I am still working on. 😉
Pointers for healing
Think for yourself
Compare what people declare is the truth with your experience of life. My personal experience is that the reality of life is much bigger than most belief systems can hold. It’s like trying to force the universe into a child’s sand bucket.
Don’t close yourself off from something that works because it doesn’t fit your belief system. Be open and willing to let your experience guide you -- embrace what works and figure out why it works for you. (I am assuming that I am having a conversation with moral, ethical people here. Healing usually doesn’t mean trying solutions that harm you or others.)
What’s true changes as we begin to heal
What’s true for you -- and what works for you -- will probably change as you move forward in the healing process. If you keep this in mind, it’s easier to applaud progress and spend less time judging the steps that got you where you are now.
Don’t give up
Mr. Hill tells us that we should expect failure and reminds us that the real key to progress is reviewing what happened and modifying the plan. That’s all. Don’t give up.
Change your expectations
He says people are drifting when they continue to accept anything they do not want in their life. I don’t see this as an excuse to dump significant others, children, pets or jobs. I see it as a wake-up call to stop ignoring what’s not working in our lives and connecting with God/Spirit/Source to address it.
Progress, not perfection
Although there is some exceptional instant healing going on in this world, most issues usually clear up gradually. My guess is that is goes back to our life plan.
If the challenges just cleared up -- poof! -- maybe we wouldn’t learn self-forgiveness, how to be generous of spirit, forgiveness of others or whatever else we wanted to learn in this life.
If you’d like some help, contact me. I conduct sessions in person (a must for massage therapy!), Skype and phone calls.
A Healing Story
This section will feature stories about healing modalities and experiences. If any of my clients want to provide a story, please contact me and we’ll share your story.
A client came to me because he felt “stuck” with his negative feelings for his ex-wife.
There had been love in the relationship but there also had been betrayal, leaving him unable to move on.
We decided to do H.E.A.L. -- this modality uses visualization, energy and breathing techniques to help release emotions and thoughts that are stuck in our cellular memory regarding an issue. It generally takes one or two sessions to move on.
At the end of the session, my client was feeling lighter, which is always a good sign.
But the best sign was when he reported that he was finally able to commit to an incredibly wonderful woman that he had been seriously dating; they were married last year and are going strong!