Before I found Tibor, my Siberian Husky, Mitsubishi (the kids named him; need I say more???) passed away. He joined my family shortly after my first husband, Winston, died and was a great comfort for 12 years.
When I asked Mitsubishi why he left, he chided me, saying, “You had me long enough. Other dogs need you.” Tough words, but true.
My second husband, Charlie, was ready to get a new dog. I started looking at pictures of dogs he sent, but nothing clicked.
Then I saw Tibor’s picture and knew he was the one.
Tibor was found running loose in West Virginia. He was about 16 months old.
Reminder: I am not a dog trainer. I communicate with animals, focusing on relationships and better communications.
Put your safety first when dealing with an aggressive animal. Use whatever resources you discern are for your and your animal’s highest good.
You can change your animal’s name
Tibor was originally named Thunder. Being VERY afraid of thunder, he did not like that name. We renamed him after an extraordinary Medal of Honor winner, Tibor Rubin.
Expressing dislikes and saying no is a learned skill
In his previous “life,” Tibor was not allowed to express his dislikes or say no. With us, he felt safe to express himself. But he did not know how to say “I don’t want to” appropriately.
I thought my job was to rescue and care for Tibor. I now see that his issues were opportunities for me to work on my issues.
For example, my most comfortable way of expressing myself or saying no is passive aggressive, including unexpected blowups at my husband.
Here comes Tibor, who is extremely frightened of fireworks and thunder – unexpected explosions of violent sound – very symbolic of my blowups.
I made a commitment to express myself in an unemotional way before I get to fireworks! It has made a difference in my relationship with Charlie, and Tibor seems less frightened over time.